Posts by a wee scots lass

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THE BLAME GAME--need help with this

by cyber-sista in

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just commented on recent topic titled: who do you blame for the time you wasted as a dub?

this questions got my brain tweaking in some different directions.

some who i admire and respect the opinions of said that they no longer blame anyone and that blaming is a waste of energy.

a wee scots lass

I too have trouble with this one cyber - sista; hope you find the answer to yours.

For years I heard my mum tell the story of how she was searching for the truth and that only JW's had the answer - I believed this all the way and lived my life as the good little JW to the extent of pioneering for years. I figured that I trusted my mum and that if she said she searched then she searched.

I look back at so many things I was not allowed to do, people I was not allowed to associate with and occasions not celebrated and for what? I look back and think about what could have been??.

I eventually left and she was not allowed to speak to me for years. We speak now and in fact she herself has stopped going along, but was thinking of going back. I have been feeding her with what I am learning on this site in the hope that she may never go back. My dad on the other hand was always more tolerant still goes but has never been strong if you know what I mean. So his going makes no difference.

So ? the blame ? I find it hard not to apportion some blame to my mum for getting involved in the first place, but blame the organisation for sucking her in and feeding her complete sh*t. It is the biggest money making racket in the world. They know what they are doing.

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For Xena and all the women on this board

by arrowstar in

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one singular sensation.

every little step she takes.. one thrilling combination.

every move that she makes.. one smile and suddenly nobody else will do;.

a wee scots lass

These are all great! Here is one of my favourites at the moment: (you must hum along as you read it)

PINK

No attorneys to plead my case

No opiates - to send me into outer space

And my fingers are bejewelled

With diamonds and gold but that ain?t

Gonna help me now

I?m trouble ? yeah trouble now

I?m trouble y?all, I disturb my town

I?m trouble ? yeah trouble now

I?m trouble y?all, I got trouble in my town

You think you?re right, but you were wrong

You tried to take me, but I knew all along

You can?t take me for a ride

I?m not a fool now - so you better run and hide

I?m trouble ? yeah trouble now

I?m trouble y?all, I disturb my town

I?m trouble ? yeah trouble now

I?m trouble y?all, I got trouble in my town

Naughty but nice

Scots Lass

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All please welcome Ruby, first post today!

by seeitallclearlynow in

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here: would you care if you got disfellowshipped at this point in time?.

welcome ruby, and i hope you stay awhile, and get to know the nice people here.

a wee scots lass

Hi Ruby

Hope you get as much of a laugh out of this site as I do! The humour & wit are worth staying around for!

Scots Lass

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silentlambs article in our local paper

by azaria in

tonight i called my husband.

he asked if i had seen the article on the jw's.

the fact that he would notice it is a good sign.

a wee scots lass

So glad to hear articles like this are still being printed. We had a programme on here in Scotland with regards to the cover up of child abuse within the congregation about a year ago. The one thing that my mum, who is still a witness, questioned when she saw the programme was why the bethel lawyers did not give a statement as to whether a list of suspected or confirmed paedophiles existed or not, and to give a statement of their child protection policies. She knew enough about bethel and the society to know that they have first-rate lawyers who could have dealt with this situation had no list existed. The fact that they have pussy footed around it makes it so obvious that they have a list that they are just unwilling to hand over.

When will the egotistical people who run this organisation realise that they must allow the proper authorities do their job in brining these sick people to justice. It is time they handed over the list of paedophiles they so obviously have!

Kind Regards

Scots Lass

23

New to the forum

by zigthink in

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just a little trial post to see if anyone notices me.

greetings to all.

looks like a fun place

a wee scots lass

Welcome to a nice place! Hope you have fun,

Scots Lass

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New To The Board

by exjdub in

i just wanted to introduce myself and tell everyone that i have enjoyed many of the posts.

i wish that this resource was available 7 years ago when i walked away from the organization, it would have helped my transition a great deal.

i also wanted to say that it is enjoyable to come to a forum that is not on an angry rant about the organization on a constant basis.

a wee scots lass

A warm welcome to you. I am quite new to the site but really enjoy it. Due to computer problems I don?t always get to post things but do get to access the site to read at least. Looking forward to getting to know you,

Scots Lass

108

Hey im NEW

by kozmik in

i pertain to a congregation in the orange county.

from the ages of around 5-16 i went to all the meetings etc etc.

i am currently 18 years of age, although i am not the ''ideal'' christain boy, i have strong faith in jehova.

a wee scots lass

I am sorry to be so blunt Kozmik - but grow up!

If you have proper defences to some of the teachings or practices more than happy to discuss them but if you just have blind faith then go get the cataracts removed then come back to discus the issues.

Scots Lass

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The good in Jehovah's Witnesses.

by ScoobySnax in

i don't think i've made any apology for my leanings here towards jws, whilst i don't imagine most here will agree with me, i just think its good sometimes to redress the balance on this forum in a small way to let people who might be reading/lurking/ know that.. despite feeling messed up a bit in my own head about which direction i want/have to take in my own life, and despite many struggles as deep and traumatic as many have experienced here, i still hold jws as a group in the highest esteem.

i can remember what it was like to try and do the "right" thing and follow the way of the truth, it was bloody hard, and i fell down many times.

i always used to try and pick myself up dust myself down and start over again, sometimes with success for longer periods than others.

a wee scots lass

If you are thinking of going back I want you to think about what your life is really going to be like.

I have a friend who recently left the JW?s for the 3 rd time because he is gay and could not live a straight life. He wanted to be like everyone else and settle down with someone ? but as a JW that someone would have to be female. He has tried so many times to fight against what he is and has tried to be straight but just could not live the lie! Also what about the poor person he could have married ? to find out your husband was really gay would be devastating. I feel just as strongly if it were finding out your wife was gay. It is all about living a lie.

I remember asking the elders about this subject and they said that Jehovah would help the person not be gay anymore if the prayed hard enough. How cruel is that?

I agree that there are many nice people within the JW?s but they will not risk going against the elders etc for fear of them being shunned. As I mentioned on another thread, I was very much discouraged from associating with some of the people in my congregation who were not deemed spiritual enough. The class system is still very much in operation within the network.

I felt when I was an active JW that I had a great life ? friends up and down the country that I could visit, a good network of support or so I thought. I was a regular pioneer when I began to wonder what I was doing with my life. Not one of these so-called friends called when I was disfellowshiped to ask if they could help me back! There is something very wrong when there are as many people leaving, as there are becoming JW?s.

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Can I get some neutral insight without being preached to?

by Nancy in

i am not a jw but my mother-in-law is.

since the day her son proposed to me (he is not a jw) she has made my life a living hell.

we have been married for just over a year and have a beautiful baby girl.

a wee scots lass

Hi Nancy,

Sorry to hear you are getting such a hard time. How did she come to live with you in the first place?

You do not say what part of the world you are from but instinct tells me that she perhaps comes from a culture pre JW where the daughter in law is expected to have the mother in law live with them and the daughter in law is expected to care for her in her old age.

If this is the case then she will see no good in what you do, couple that with the JW dilemma and she will feel that you have stolen her son and that you are the reason that she will not have ?good standing? in the class system operated by JW?s. Oh yes, the class system is alive and well within the kingdom halls! Points for the class system includes elders in the family, pioneers, special pioneers, and how many kids raised and stayed a JW, etc etc!

I know because I had first hand experience of who I was allowed to associate with even within the same congregation. My parents did not want me mixing with fellow JW?s who did not come from very spiritual families!

All I can say is try to get out of there as soon as you can.

Good luck,

Scots lass

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HELP! God get me out of here!

by Sparks in

have you ever been stuck in an embarrassing situation where you think you`d rather die than endure another 30 seconds...?

what is it with some of these witnesses!okay so they are no part of the world,fine,but which world,which planet are they on..!!!

(ok, let`s start at the beginning).i was a witness for many years, so while i`m out shopping or working, i quiet often bump into pioneers and other witnesses who are out on their ministry.some-times we just say "hello" and go in our seperate way`s; but often we will stop and chat for ten minutes or so.some-times i have to-be almost rude to get away from some,especially the pioneer`s who set the hours meter running as soon as we start talking.i am never rude to the witnesses, i was a pioneer myself and always try to put myself in other peoples shoes[ the golden rule ].sometimes i meet the odd elder while in the town centre.

a wee scots lass

Very funny!

Scots lass